The dreaded Almond Mom is on the warpath at Christmas. Dietitian Lucy Carey has strategies to protect yourself from diet culture this season.
It’s Christmas Day and the table is laden with delicious food. As you reach for another fruit mince pie, your mother cocks one eyebrow at you. Guilt rises rapidly and you hastily put the pie down and take a second helping of green beans instead.
After dinner, you’re content to curl up on the couch and watch your favourite Christmas movie, but your mother bustles you out of the door so you can “Work off those calories”.
And the chat on your walk? It’s all about how weight loss injections have been working for her friend, so why don’t you give it a try as well?
If you’re sighing in recognition, you have an almond mom. Maybe they are well-meaning, but they’re also grinches at Christmastime.
So let’s not let the almond moms have the last laugh these holidays. I’ve got a few pointers for you about how to navigate these interactions with kindness and confidence, even if you’re secretly terrified.
What exactly is an Almond Mom?
A few years back, a video resurfaced on the internet. It was Gigi Hadid the supermodel, then 15, calling her mother. Gigi confessed that she was feeling really faint, only having eaten half an almond that day. Her mother’s advice? “Have two almonds and chew them really well.”
Um, what?!
That sparked #almondmom and the internet started talking about the people in our lives who push diet culture on us. The friends and family who turn holiday gatherings into opportunities to spread diet-related commentary. It might sound like, “Oh, you’re having dessert? Better hit the gym tomorrow!” or “Let’s just a have a little taste so we don’t overdo it.”
The first step in fighting back against almond moms is simply recognizing these messages for what they are: projection. The almond moms are victims of diet culture, fearful of overeating, trying to rigidly control their intake, exercising even when sick or injured, etc.
When emotions are running high, it can be tempting to flip them the bird, but remembering that they are projecting their own insecurities and fears on to you reminds you to separate the person from the words. You should really pity the almond mom.
Setting boundaries
Once you’ve identified diet culture talk, it’s time to set boundaries. I like to skip the confrontation altogether by having a line prepared that is designed to shut down the conversation. A go-to for my clients is, “Thanks for your concern but I’m following my dietitian’s plan”, or “I’m actually working on a building a healthier relationship with food so I would appreciate it if we chatted about something else. How was your trip?”
The key here is to think it through beforehand so you don’t feel put on the spot. When you can calmly and kindly redirect the conversation, you’re not only protecting your peace but you’re also modeling a more positive approach to food and body image for others at the table.
Practicing self-care
It can be emotionally draining to be surrounded by diet talk, so a handy list of non-food related activities (see last week’s post for ideas!) and some back up options that completely remove you from the situation are a must. Whether it’s a a short walk or even a bathroom break so you can take a few deep breaths, a bit of time-out protects your energy.
You might also find a short mantra useful – you can repeat the sentence to yourself to counteract the almond talk, e.g. “Food is not the enemy” or “I deserve to enjoy this meal.”
The No-Diet Holiday Survival Guide
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This Christmas, it’s time to shift the focus away from restriction and guilt and back to what truly matters: celebrating food, family, and connection. If you can recognize diet culture talk for what it is, set boundaries around it, and practice self-care, you can reclaim the joy of the holidays.
Remember, the season is about more than what’s on your plate – it’s about who’s at your table and the memories you create together. You have the power to make this a season of joy and freedom!
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